When you’re around people, it’s as though a number of hands are grabbing at you, taking your energy away from you piece by piece.
Somehow, though, you managed to fight through the intense emotions around you and connect with someone on a romantic level. And your romantic relationship is adding value to your life.
The problem, though, is that you’re having trouble staying balanced and feeling happy and free as an empath. However, if it’s of any consolation to you, even though you may feel all alone, you’re not.
Research shows that about 15-20% of people in the world are highly sensitive people (HSP), with some of these HSPs being empaths.
The good news is that if your relationship feels like a deep pool of feeling overwhelmed, you can take some steps to avoid getting burned out. Here’s a look at empaths and relationships — specifically, what you can do to take care of yourself as an empath in a relationship.
Let’s get started!
Distinguish Between Cognitive Empathy and Emotional Empathy
Two types of empathy exist: cognitive and emotional. Let’s take a look at how they differ.
Cognitive empathy is where you’re able to understand how somebody feels and not take this on yourself. Meanwhile, if you feel these emotions yourself, this is emotional empathy.
Both types of empathy play an important role in your relationship. However, it’s critical that you master being able to recognize both of them.
If you begin to feel happy or lower than usual, ask yourself if you’re experiencing your own emotions or your significant other’s. If it’s your partner’s emotions you’re feeling, try to separate yourself from them and focus on how you’re feeling. Then, you can deal with your own emotions appropriately.
Esteem Your Partner Like You Esteem Your Pets
Empaths have a tendency to love animals. In fact, it’s generally difficult to break apart empaths and their pets.
Sometimes, though, your significant other may feel like a third wheel when they’re around you and your beloved pet. This might make your partner feel unwanted and unloved even though you’re not trying to ignore them.
This is why it’s critical that you tell your significant other that you value them and your pet equally. You just love them differently. If you let your partner know this, they may feel much better about their place in your life.
Don’t Crowd Your Significant Other Out
In any relationship, both parties need space from one another. And that’s even more important in your case if you’re an empath.
When you’re in a relationship, you pick up on each other’s emotions and vibes 24/7 if you never get a break from each other. And that’s not a healthy situation for you or for them.
So, figure out the amount of space needed for both of you to feel emotionally healthy. For instance, maybe you could turn one of your home’s rooms into your very own retreat — a place you can go when you’re feeling overwhelmed. You may also want to have two separate beds for you and your significant other.
Keep in mind that your significant other’s needs may be different from yours. So, have an open discussion about what works for both of you.
And that leads us to our next point….
Be Communicative with Your Significant Other
An essential aspect of all relationships is communication. However, just because you’re listening to your significant other’s views doesn’t mean you’ve got to assume them, too.
In some situations, your significant other’s views might not align with your opinions. And that’s okay. Disagreeing with your partner doesn’t mean you have any less love and appreciation for them.
Carve Out Some “Me” Time
Being sensitive can be emotionally exhausting. And that’s why it’s paramount that you take some time to regroup — by yourself.
So, what exactly does regrouping mean to you? It might mean meditating, spending time with Man’s Best Friend, or watching your favorite television show. Whatever it may be, make sure that you’ve got both space and time for it.
Also, as we mentioned earlier, let your significant other know that making time for yourself is critical for your emotional wellbeing. If you’re in a healthy relationship, your significant other will understand.
Additional Tips on Empaths and Relationships
If you want to feel happy and sane in your relationship, make sure that you’re also doing the type of work you love. Otherwise, you won’t feel fulfilled. At least make time for the types of activities that bring you joy — like writing or singing, for example.
Also, be sure to speak honestly with your significant other your anxieties and feelings when you’re overwhelmed by your emotions. At the same time, be willing to make the types of compromises that you’re both okay with.
Another step you can take to avoid getting burned out in your relationship is to spend time in nature whenever possible. And when you can’t get outdoors, try to speak with a friend or go to sleep.
If nothing else, just breathe. It can help you to find your center again.
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